Singleness is not a disease. 

I wish I could remember where I read that statement and who said it, but every single man and woman needs to hear it. 

I’m sure you’ve heard the single season referred to as the “waiting room”. So let’s take that concept and run with it for a moment. 

Let’s say you’re in the waiting room at the doctor’s office. You’re probably waiting because the doctor is still with a patient, the doctor could be finishing up notes in between appointments or the doctor got called for another situation that needed their attention immediately. Either way you’re stuck waiting. 

Now while you’re waiting you can do several things. You can read, watch the TV in the office, text or for those with white coat syndrome, you can take deep breaths to calm your heart. In the midst of however you choose to pass the time, you also see other people getting called for their appointments. 

Now imagine God is the doctor and your appointment is the significant other you’ve been praying for. You’re waiting for God to call your name, to tell you it’s your turn to be “seen”. 

Consider this, God may have you waiting for several reasons.

• Your partner isn’t ready to receive you yet. 
• You aren’t ready to receive him/her.
• You’re past is still your present.
  • You haven’t cleared space for what you are praying for. That old relationship you consider is still lingering. The person may be out of your life, but the idea of them is still hidden in the crevices of your heart.
• God wants you more.
  • God pursues us, so maybe He needs this time to be set apart for you and Him only.
• God is establishing your trust in Him with the goal of developing your faith.

While waiting to be called into a relation you can…

• Find comfort in God and know that He is working, even when it feels silent. 
• Ask God to teach you what true love is and how you can apply His example of love into your future relationship. 
• Pray for your significant other. Don’t just pray that he/she will find you. Pray for their relationship with God, that they are prioritizing healing from any trauma, that they have good influences around them, that they know the value of relationships and that they can hear God’s voice so they know when to pursue you.
• Be committed in your single season. Each season has a lesson and you must learn from it.

When you see other people get called for their “appointments” (getting into relationships, becoming fiancés or hitting the 10 year milestone in marriage) rest assured. It’s a sign to you that God is still calling names and yours is coming up. What He does for one, He will do for you because He is faithful. 

According to Ecclesiastes chapter 3, there is a time and season for everything! Ask God what He wants you to learn during this single season of your life. Listen closely and give Him a chance to respond. I’m not sure what He will tell you, but I guarantee it won’t be that singleness is a disease. 

See you next week!